I think that there is a point in peoples lives when they realize that they have to let go of a bit of baggage in their lives - even if that means said baggage being friends. Or, people that you used to call friends. I won't say any names cause its a bit irrelevant on the internets, and the people who do(?) read this might be like "oh snap!" so whatever. I've mentioned one before, in my dreams post... well, that still bugs me from time to time that I never got any closure; perhaps out of stupidity in hoping that I'd get a response, I sent a message. Nothing back, but I guess I shouldn't be surprised. If she's dug herself in that far then that's her own fault and she will have to live with that. I'm letting it go, for my own sanitys sake. She will just be somebody that I used to know.
One thing that I have never had patience for was all the drama and bullshit that some people do in order to get attention from one person, or a number of persons. It usually activates my bitch mode and I tell it like it is. Bluntness is a good and a bad thing I suppose. But, it does squash out the bullshit and shows you who your true friends are. A prior close friend of mine was subject to said wrath... I was nagged and guilt tripped into hanging out (ex. You never make time for me, and by the time you do make time, I won't be the same person.. blahblah) before I left on my trip so I was like FINE.. and go see them. What a waste of time that was. I was told upon arrival that they had to be somewhere in an hour - after all that nagging to hang out they had made other plans that day. We had nothing to talk about, the only thing of moderate depth in our conversation was that they said that they would need to find another "me." Meaning, cause that now that I was in a relationship, I had a new confidant, and they felt that they couldn't talk to me as before. Fuck that. You didnt have to cut me off and make me feel like it never happened and that nothing happened at all. So I left in a pretty bad mood.
I get back, and its like deja vu. They send a message, I get sidetracked with life outside of the interenet, and don't respond promptly. Then I get a "goodbye." That's when I snap. I said, and I quote:
"You know, I'm really getting a feeling of deja vu right now. It's the same thing as before I left - pushing and prodding to hang out or talk, and threatening to just say goodbye and forget it all. Well, I'm tired of the bullshit. After all the nagging to hang out before I left for what? A waste of an hour cause you have nothing to talk to me about? Besides saying that you're going to have to find another "me." Well good luck with that cause I don't know who would want to deal with your attitude. My bad for hanging a life outside of the internet and don't check my messages every time I'm on. The "goodbye" shows me one: you're being immature and fucking clingy, and two, that you're a bad friend. You always aid I was the one to break you, so let me break this to you: whining and threatening to break off the friendship on the soul reason that they haven't responded right away makes you a shitty friend. And after last time, seeing you was a wast of time. So, I'll just do you the favor and drop out of your life."
I don't want to be hung up on somebody that I used to know.
Harsh, maybe. To the point? Yes. My point is that if someone is seemingly drifting away from you and getting their shit together, and you're the one whinging about never seeing them and saying that they're neglecting you, stop and take a look at yourself. Stop being an asshole. If you are doing said things and expecting other people to just jump to your commands whilst they are maybe trying to get their lives back together, or to start another one with a new partner, and you'r the one getting you nose out of joint you are the bad friend, not them. Communication goes both ways. If you want to see someone, contact. Don't just wait for them to contact you first. Or, if they don't respond right away, don't get yer knickers in a twist and threaten to just leave and forget it all. Cause it might just come around and bite you in the ass when they get tired of your shit.
Don't be somebody that they used to know.
